A few days ago, I was watching my little darling cartwheel and tumble for hours on the sand. I noticed another little girl tumbling closer and closer. I watched as they each mimicked what the other was doing. Eventually, the other gymnast asked my daughter to play tumbling together. What started out, I guess almost as a little friendly competition, became a game…. at times a lesson. Both teaching the other their strengths and learning as well.
Here’s the interesting part, another girl walked past and obviously watched what had gone on. Rather than joining the fun game, she decided to show off. She was experienced and had great skill. There she was, doing a round off backhand spring (whatever that is) and to me all I saw was arrogance. Her intention was obvious….. It wasn’t to play. It was to build herself up and make the two new friends feel insignificant. I was thankful when I saw that the girls just shrugged their shoulders and kept on with their game.
It left me wondering why women feel the need to knock each other down rather than build each other up. I really try to teach my girls the latter. You become a more fulfilled person by recognizing someone’s strengths or even celebrating someone for their accomplishments.
The message I always share with my girls as they encounter the ups and downs of female friendships, is to surround themselves by positive people. Staying away from anyone who treats others with disregard or belittles other people is pivotal. That’s just plain old toxic. We buy organic veggies for goodness sakes why would we allow negative people to contaminate our mental well being or question out self-worth.
When I say I’m thankful for my friendships, I mean it from the bottom of my heart. My friends have helped me grow and become a better version of me. I’ve never felt that they begrudge my happiness or joy… nor would I allow that in my life.
I choose joy, happiness, and kindness…. Life is too short to allow for anything else and I’ll continue to teach my kids the same.
What are your thoughts? Words of wisdom?