The time is quickly approaching where many of us focus on creating magnanimous New Year’s Resolutions. Everywhere around us we hear “new year, new you”. Somehow we feel the pressure that with the new year comes a new time for big change and only then can big change happen.
Once upon a time I was a die hard resolutioner (not sure that’s a real term)but I realized that I was setting myself up for failure. I started setting these huge goals that some years I barely accomplished, leaving myself with an annoyingly ridiculous amount of guilt and self-imposed pressure. Taking a step back was eye opening. Goal setting was great but it didn’t have to be such a grand event.
As someone who always reflects, I took some time to think about small areas where I really wanted to see some self improvement.I figured that I’d focus on one small thing at a time and not a big grandiose change. I discovered a lot about myself.
Finding that although I’m often one to boost other people up and realizing that I rarely did it for myself was an awakening of sorts. Why is it so easy for us to find many flaws about ourselves yet so difficult to highlight our positives? The first small change on my list was and is to give myself a little positive self talk. I teach my students how to do it yet I wasn’t applying it to myself.
The second small change I decided to make was brought on by a conversation with a friend. The overall message I heard was about choice. We all choose what our stressors are going to be. Almost like we decide how much energy and power we give something.
Choosing not to worry about something that hasn’t happened yet is empowering. Choosing how to react to a situation can change the entire outcome. These may not sound like your typical resolutions because they aren’t or at least for me they’re not. It’s just a bit of a shift in thinking. And guess what, if I happen to lose focus I’ve also embraced that everyday is a new chance for a new me(you). Changes and improvements don’t just happen in the new year or even on a Sunday they can happen whenever you choose.
Ultimately, an improvement is growth regardless of how big or small it is. And shifting from thinking about what you’re going to accomplish this year to what goal you’re going to work towards tomorrow will make you feel successful.LOVE IT!2+
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